A lot of people ask me, “How do you do it? How do you manage a job at home with 2 little kids running around?” There are many times I wonder how I am doing it myself. There are days that I have so much going on and at the start of the day I can’t help but think about all of it at once and I get overwhelmed and feel like crawling back in bed and just running away from it all. I felt like I was being pulled in a hundred different directions at the same time all the time.  

For a while there I allowed the stress of it all to get the better of me. I dealt with so much anxiety and frustration over things I had no or little control over. I would yell at my kids or go to the bathroom and cry my eyes out until I was able to get it together to continue with whatever was going on. I would tell customers it was like working and running a daycare at the same time. I felt like pulling my hair out more times than I can count. I felt like I was going to lose it. The crazy part of it all was the fact that no matter how much I had on my plate or how bizarre the day was going, I still managed to get everything done and then some with plenty of time left over.  

I slowly began recognizing that about myself and changing my perspective of how I was handling my day-to-day duties. Instead of thinking of everything that needed to be done at once and allowing my mind to become anxious or overwhelmed, I started to just take one task at a time and just work towards it. With my work of course there are several distractions and unknown situations that arise that takes me off track not to mention having young children is unpredictable when it comes to changing dirty diapers, feeding, entertaining, etc., but at the core, I stopped focusing on what had not been done yet and placed my focus on what I was doing at that time.  

Another change I made was the language I used towards myself. Instead of coming at myself with a “poor me” type approach for having so much on my plate, I started to vocalize and realize I was a badass mom who was making it happen. I was awesome at getting work done while taking time to educate my kids, feed them, play with them, and keep them on a routine as I did my job duties and dealt with whatever came my way customer-wise that needed to be dealt with sporadically. I started to compliment and encourage myself as I accomplished tasks throughout my day. 

 “You go girl”  

“You got this”  

“You’re the bomb”  

When I stopped focusing on the lack of and put my focus on the abundance and what all I was capable of, it made all the difference I needed.  

What you focus on will become your reality. That is such a powerful statement and truth that goes beyond what most of us comprehend.  

Think about your relationship with money for instance. When you think about money are you focused on the lack of having it or on how abundant you are even if you may not be where you want currently? For so long as I focused on all I had to get done in order to feel good, I also focused on my lack of having enough money to live the way I want.

That led me to constantly struggle in my life. I had no idea I was attracting my own struggles just by what I was focused on. I created anxiety by focusing on all that I had to get done all at once as if I did not have enough time in the day. There was always plenty of time and all that stress was such a waste of energy and put me in a terrible state of mind to not only start off my day but carry it throughout my day. I was so mentally exhausted at the end of my day that I hardly had anything left of myself to give my family. That was so unfair to them, especially my husband who didn’t get to see me until later in the evening.  

Once I placed my focus on just how awesome I was at what I do, and acknowledged and praised that about myself, it was like this huge shift in my life came out of nowhere. I started my day in a positive state of mind knowing that I was capable of getting everything done, knowing what an amazing mother I am, that my kids would be taken care of, and would also be seeing how hard working of a mother I am that would instill good work ethics into them as well. I started even changing my focus on money from lack of to the abundance I not only already had but knew was on its way to me. I saw my anxiety disappear. I saw my energy growing more and more each day. I was able to give my family more of me than before. I was in a better mood and just happier overall. I was able to handle things in such a way I once thought was impossible.  

You deserve the same. You deserve to be good to yourself and recognize how hard you work and how awesome you are. Only you can claim it and own it. Only you can make that choice on what you focus on and what you attract into your life.